Emotions
You know how unfair it is that we women, regardless of our origins ( not middle eastern women or western women, or anything in between) have so many emotions, and for good or bad express them much more than our male counterparts? Well, one could argue that we do have less communication problems, that we get things "out of our systems", we understand the language of silence.... I could go on and on.
However, honestly sometimes my emotions really bother me. Not when I express them, but when I expect the same expression from "better half", who happens to be male.
I might get so excited about something, all he says is: "Oh, really?", where I would say: " OH< REALLLLLYYYY??????"
I will spend 2 months in Europe this summer, taking my daughters with me. A couple of weeks ago- he probably does not even remember- since males tend to forget everythig right after they said it- I told him that we will miss him, he said: "I will come over for a week."
Now I asked him if he will miss us. You know what he tells me? "Well, I am not alone yet, after you girls take off I can let you know!" I could not believe my ears.
You tell me, am I expecting too much from a man? A wise woman once told me not to expect too much from men in general, since none of them would think like us women, they are, let's say it this way, build less complicated. How does that sound?
The same way they can not multitask, they might not be able to express themselves or play the wordgames women can manage so well.
All in all, I guess I came to the conclusion never to rephrase a question to expect the same answer, since - at least my husband- would not even notice that it was the same question. when I think about it, it would be a really fun game to play... I keep asking the same question over and over again and collect all the 100 answers I get.... :)

2 Comments:
dealing with women i am often reminded of a great quote from an episode of star trek, "the changeling". yes, i am a trekkie nerd. in that episode, spock informed nomad, a destructive robot that had just erased uhura's memory, that the unit was a woman. nomad replied, "that unit is a mass of conflicting impulses."
no, i am not sexist, but yes i believe that men and women deal with their emotions differently. if asking the same question multiple times is some mad method to probe a man's mind, the answers are bound to be different at times. if one wanted to hear the same answer over and over, then perhaps a tape recorder would be better suited to the task.
words, perhaps, are not that important after all. what counts is the actions. that takes patience and keen observation, and women are sometimes ill equipped in those areas.
You are crazy! Give me one good reason why I married you???? :))
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