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General women issues, middle eastern women rights, islamic women's rights

Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Liberal marriage = middle eastern marriage????

I read a very interesting article today: the wife of a billionaire, whose name I will not mention, has an agreement with her husband: In case of a divorce she will receive US $ 9 million. Pretty good deal, you might think. However, the man has an agreement as well: he can do whatever he wants, including having numerous women on the side. Liberal marriage, you might think.
So, as a pragmatic person I added 1 plus 1 and came to the following conclusion: the woman has sold herself for 9 million dollars.

Then the question came up to my mind: what makes this arrangement any different from the ones middle eastern men have with their wives? Everyone always says that the Islamic religion allows them to have 4 wives (restrictions apply to that, I won't get too much into the details, but as a resume: the 1st wife has to give her permission and there must be reasons for the second marriage). The man has to treat his wives all the same way, which in my opinion is absolutely impossible, since I can not even treat two pairs of my shoes the same! And spend equal amounts of nights with each of them. In some Islamic countries a certain financial agreement are made, which is comparable to a gift from the husband to the wife in case of a divorce.

Now, this western billionaire, who I mentioned above, he obviously has the wife's agreement to have mistress, one night stands and girl friends on the side. Therefore the first check is done.
If he treats them all the same way and spends time with all of them equally is open. Maybe yes, maybe no. Hence: in dubio pro reo.

Now my question; what exactly is the difference between this liberal marriage and the one's people have in the middle east? Could I from now on say that liberal marriages are middle eastern marriages? Sounds pretty funny to me! :)

1 Comments:

Blogger Robert Hashemian said...

one must realize that life at the top is different than what most people are accustomed to. it's probably not so much about being liberal or conservative, but the fact that an abundance of money changes the rules to the extent that might be unacceptable to average people.
average middle eatern marriages are probably not as different from western marriages as some might think. at the root of it all, it's about raising a family and surviving the everyday grind. i suspect that wealthy middle easterns have comparable marriages to their wealthy western counterparts too. after all, it takes money to take care of multiple wives, just as it does to juggle multiple mistresses.

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