What makes a MAN ???

Well, the topic says it all, but here again to refresh your memory: what makes a man?
It is not as easy to answer as you might think.
Zorba would have said: what's in his heart and what's in his pants.
In ancient times they would have said, a man is the one to defend his country.
In the cage times it would have been the person to go hunting and bring home the food.
Then for a time a man might have been a man biologically, but would not be considered as such in society if he had not produced a... son.
O.K., I get the different definitions. They all depended on what society wanted at that time and mostly what the expectations were to the male species.
But now, after I have been called a wise-cracking, man-castrating woman, I really want to know: what makes a man?
Is it just his biological equipment? I swear, I have not chopped off anyone, I mean any male body parts-yet. So this won;t make them men.
Is it the money part? The fact that they bring home the financial security? No, this can not be either, since after WW II women were able to work in factories and that's when the underground woman movement started, until women burned their bras at the beginning of the 70s and declared their freedom. The rest is history. We women can basically- in most countries- do whatever our heart desires.
So, just because I am fine opening my own car door or can paint a room and the ceiling without a mans help castrates men? Or is it the fact that I can think on my own, say what I think and don;t let anyone, regardless of gender tell me what to think? Maybe it is the fact that at times I like to be treated like a woman and at times be accepted as a woman. Two completely different things, which men still don't get.
I honestly believe men did not develop with the woman movement. Even though they had more than a handful of decades to get used to it. Come on guys, the fact that we women decide over our bodies, our brains, and our money doe snot mean we don't accept or respect you. So why is it so difficult for you to see the different roles omen have in society? Is it the fact that a woman can be several things at once? Does the fact that I work approximately 11-12 hours a day, come home and prepare dinner, drive my kids to after school activities, watch over their homework, take care of my house, meaning cleaning, doing laundry, shopping and still talk to my children, make me a man castrater? Maybe I am expecting too much from men. Maybe they just did not get used to the multi-multi-tasking women. But on the other side: hey, they were probably too busy thinking about their manhood, and we all know that men can't multitask.

Upside world

Maybe I am getting the Benjamin Button syndrome, maybe I am going through midlife crisis or maybe I am simply seeing things.
You tell me why we live in an upside world and I promise to reward the person who gives me a convincing and reasonable answer.
This is what is bothering me:
I remember when my first daughter was born and I constantly wanted to hold her, touch her and did not even put her in her own room to sleep. As a matter of fact, I would bring her into our own bed, where she cuddled under my arm or simply slept on her fathers’ chest. It was the sweetest sight. Same thing happened with my second daughter. Of course everyone would keep telling me what a great mistake this was, that a child was supposed to sleep in its’ own bed, that I was spoiling my girls waaaay too much blah blah blah. So, I thought, okay, babies are supposed to sleep alone. Leaving their mothers warm body, with her heart beat in their ears and her voice surrounding them for nine months, now they are forced into clothes and are supposed to sleep in a bed far way from their mother. Baby monitors would substitute the mom’s ear. Now don’t get me wrong, I did not want to constantly walk around with my babies and be Mrs. Mom in person.
When the kids become teenagers and want to be left alone, we parents become somehow stalkers. Be honest, if you have children, who are passed that age, you know what I mean. We constantly ask them what was going on at school, check their bags, under their beds, we are supposed to spend time with them. But we don’t get it: they don’t want to spend time with us. Hellloooo, we are the parents. Meaning we have nooo idea! About anything.
Then when people grow up and end up in a relation ship, they sleep mostly likely in one bed again. And here is my issue. I will ask you a question, but you have to promise me to be honest when you are answering. In case you are in a relation-ship and your partner does sleep in the same bed, how many times has it happened that you wished you were alone in the room? Someone might want to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, or get a glass of water. Someone likes the room warm, the other one cool. One of you might need to get up very early in the morning, the other one might be a night person. Every move in your own bed, becomes a torture. You constantly have to worry about waking the other one up. So, here the second part of my question: why? Why do grown-ups, who, yes, we might like all that touchy-feely stuff as well, but mostly we need a good sleep to be able to function the following day in a meeting, or during the commute or etc etc. etc. Now don’t give me the answer that this is just the way it is or it’s like this for sex. I would be very disappointed in your intelligence. If you have smaller kids in the house, you will be too tired for having sexual activities and too worried, locking doors, making sure no one wakes up and all the of the above, so that it will ruin the mood anyways. If you have grown-up kids who are either very independent or don’t live in your house anymore, most of the time, people forgot how it is to be very close, since they are pre-occupied with other things in their life.
Well, having said all of this might make you wonder. Now here is my solution:
I personally think we should have it the other way around. Holding a baby in the arm while it sleeps, and as grow-ups living like the aristocrat families of the last century. One was married, but basically lived separate in the same house in two different bed-rooms. No wonder the divorce rates were much lower at those times. It is not because people could not get a divorce, but probably because they had their own life anyway, even when they had a spouse. So, in my opinion, instead of putting a baby alone in a cold room, a grow-up should move in alone. You will have your spouse and a good night sleep.