Same sex relation-ships

It is terrible enough that people have to defend their sexual orientation. I believe what people do and think in their bedrooms is a very private matter and should stay between the two people involved. Whether a man is making love to a woman or to a man is only their business and should not be discussed publicly. Worse than discussing it is when other’s judge you based on your bedroom actions and interest.
I am straight and have not discovered any interests for my own gender yet. So I am not speaking out of self –interest. However, I do have some gay friends, who are a man or woman’s dream come true. Yes, I know as a woman we always think, well, maybe they have not met the right woman yet. Maybe I can “change” them. Or we think what a waste, I would love him. But ladies, think of it this way: imagine someone like Giselle Bundchen being a lesbian and falling in love with you. Would you change? She is gorgeous, rich and famous, has probably one of the best bodies. But, honestly, I would befriend her, but not want to be with her. Even if I am always bashing men, I admit, I rather have a man in my private rooms.
Now, you might say, it is easy for me to talk this way, because I don’t have a son or daughter who is gay or lesbian. Good point. I have thought how my reaction would be. Sure enough, I am liberal. But I think the first reaction would be: “What did I do wrong?” This is a question a mother always asks when her children do something unexpected. Unexpected- because you expect after giving birth to a son or daughter that they will end up marrying or being with someone from the opposite sex and have children. The latter one is probably one of the biggest reasons we might get the first reaction: we will not have grandchildren from this particular child. (Which is not 100 % true, but that its another story…). But what would I do after the first reaction passed? I guess I would think: “O.K., what now?” I would sit my son or daughter down and ask why they would know, how they found out… again all the mom questions. And eventually I would be fine. Because: What is wrong with it?
Think of another scenario: How would you react if your son or daughter came home one day and claimed to have been sleeping with 5 women or men every night for the past 4 years??? Don’t tell me you would say: Wonderful! That would be the greatest shock for me. At that point I would wonder: What did I do wrong?
Unfortunately, we live in a society, where people forget to think at times. When children (yes, 14 year olds are kids in my eyes) say publicly in Middle School: “Ughhh, so-and-so is gay… how disgusting!”, while they are talking about a grown-up man, while they are already sexually active themselves ever since they were 12. I ask you: why is it okay if a man sleeps around, but not okay if he is faithful to one male partner? Why do we call it sexual freedom for women, if they can have as many partners as possible, but not okay when a woman is faithful to her one female partner? I just don’t get it! We are constantly fighting for freedom of speech, expression and all that stuff. But gays and lesbians still have to fight for their right to be accepted as couples. Come on, it’s time for all of us to accept that a couple does not mean + and- only, that it can be + and + or – and -. As long as they get along, what do we care?

And admit: you don’t raise anyone gay or lesbian, they don’t make themselves gay or lesbians. To all those highly religious people, God made them this way. And if you go to church, mosque or synagogue and pray for all the people in this world, for all the creatures made by God, learn to accept gays or lesbians as well. They are the way they are. Just live with it!